It's been a while since I posted my thoughts about stuff I've figured out in my 50+ years. Because I don't do this very often, I'll review with you that these thoughts are my own opinions and are meant mostly for my kids. If others get something from them, that's a bonus, but I'm really not trying to tell anyone....well, anyone other than my kids, what to do.

Moving on, I have struggled a little bit to try to condense this into a concise idea and the best I can come up with is, Stuff I Know #5--Life is What You Make of It. That's not quite how I wanted to put it really, because I know you can't often control outside circumstances or the effects of other people's choices, but what you can choose your reaction to them. A couple of my favorite quotes center around this theme and they are:
#1--"The truth is--there's no better time to be happy than right now."
#2--"The single most significant decision I can make on a day-to-day basis, is my choice of attitude."
So you can listen to the whisper campaign, either real or in your head, that says:
- "Why don't they......?"
- "They always......"
- "How come.....?"
...that makes you second guess your own worth, or makes you compare yourself to someone else, or makes you think someone deliberately has it in for you. You can listen to those voices, or you can make the choice to just be the best YOU can be. It's all about choices, people. Life is just all about them. My kids have heard me say this time and time again over the years. Life is made up of a series of choices. There are a few big ones thrown in to make everything interesting, but mostly it's made up of small, everyday choices that are either leading you toward or away from where you eventually want to end up.

The bottom line is that you can choose to think that people are out to get you, or have ulterior motives, or are picking on you personally, or whatever...OR you can choose to think that people are basically well-intentioned and are really just doing the best they can. You can take the "nobody likes me, everybody hates me, guess I'll go eat worms" approach and pout your way through, or you can make your way through it without ascribing ulterior motives to everyone's actions or words. It's your choice.
This is something I've occasionally struggled with over the years, the second guessing, the wondering if what someone says is what they really mean, the hurtful comments people inadvertently, but inevitably say. I've been on both the giving and receiving end. If I'm going to get in trouble, it's almost always because of something I've said that is taken the wrong way, but it's always unintentional, and I've been grateful for friends and family who've chosen to have forgiving hearts.

So if you're taking offense often at things people say or do....stop it. Look beyond what you think they mean and make a choice to give them the benefit of the doubt. It will serve you well when you are the one who needs that same benefit. You cannot control the words or actions of others. You can only control your response to them. Choose to enjoy the journey and learn from your experiences, because life, in large part, is what you make of it.